In order to understand how to break the cycle of raising kids in an unhappy environment, you need to first understand why people behave the way they do. The vast majority of behavior has its roots in the subconscious mind, which explains why many parents inadvertently create stress and unhappiness in their children without even realizing it. Fortunately, it’s possible to take control over the subconscious mind and consciously shape your environment and the way you raise your kids – if you choose to do so! Here’s how to take control over your subconscious mind and change yourself and your kids’ lives forever.
What is the subconscious mind?
The subconscious is the part of our minds that makes decisions without our needing to actively think about them, so it chooses for us without us realizing it. It's different from the conscious mind, which encompasses the thoughts we know we are having at any given moment.
All our thinking, talking, and doing is influenced by our subconscious mind, shaped by our childhood and events that happened to us. These include fear, belief, desire, and memory that you might not be consciously aware of.
Why is it important to understand the subconscious mind?
We can think of our subconscious as an operating system, and if it's corrupt, we need to fix it. Reprogramming your subconscious will give you a better response to triggering situations.
How can the subconscious mind be controlled?
With hypnotherapy, you can visualize how you want to parent your child, bring your mind and body together, and reprogram how your mind responds to stress.
What are some techniques to help take control of the subconscious mind?
You can start by reprogramming your thinking with these 3 tips:
1. Stop and breathe
In the first place, stop and take a few deep breaths; that way, you'll get out of fight-or-flight mode. You will be able to make better decisions based on more logical conclusions and more accurate knowledge rather than personal bias.
2. Hypnotherapy
This science-based therapy can help you reprogram your subconscious mind and take control over your mindset. Once you realize that you have power over how you think, react, and behave, you will feel more empowered and free.
3. Take time for yourself (Even if it’s only 5 minutes!)
The hardest task for any parent may be to remember to do this, but it is so vital for everyone. Do what you need to remember to do. Use reminders, write it on your forehead (just kidding, but you know what I mean...), or use sticky notes.
In order to be the best version of yourself, you need to take time for yourself–– use an emergency Mindpower Session on MamaZen, or change your environment, go for a run, or do some yoga. Keep your body and mind in shape, and your subconscious will follow.
How do I know if this is working?
Once you master your subconscious mind, you'll start to notice little changes in how you parent. You'll be able to pause and consider your reactions rather than give in to impulses. As you change, so will your children and their behavior will improve. Your motherhood experience will change in many positive ways thanks to this transformation. Every session on the MamaZen app is geared towards shifting your mindset and breaking the cycle and you will begin to notice the different after just a few sessions.
Irin Rubin is a motherhood expert and the co-founder of the app MamaZen. Her passion is helping parents and their kids to live a happy and mindful life.
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Most moms feel a noticeable shift in just one session. With regular use, you’ll experience less yelling, more patience, better sleep, and a deeper connection with your children—and yourself.
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