There are a few things that I’m pretty good at, like home organizing and baking, mostly because these are things I enjoy doing (not to mention I love to eat cake). There are also quite a few things that completely baffle me, like gardening (I can’t seem to keep flowers alive for very long) and things like knitting and crochet; sorry, I just don’t have the patience. However, when it comes to the thing that I am the absolute WORST at, it’s this little thing called self-love. If I were to place a wager, I would bet that I am not alone; I find that we moms are our own worst critics.
When I first became a mom I was, of course, thrilled, and I was under the very common perception that it was time for me to take a backseat -- for the rest of my life. Unfortunately, this is how a lot of moms feel, but guess what? It’s actually not really how it’s supposed to be, no matter what you might be led to believe by stereotypes and social media.
The reality is if we don’t take care of ourselves, moms, we can’t fully take care and appreciate the other people in our lives that mean so much to us. Trust me, it’s really really hard for me to take time out for me. I mean, really hard. It takes a lot of intentional planning for me to do something that is all about me, whether it’s a bubble bath or a solo walk around my block, I have to schedule it out or it won’t happen.
Practicing self-love doesn’t have to be complicated, though, and you can do it in small snippets throughout your day to start to reshape the way you look at yourself, and how you view your level of importance within your family. I know I get overwhelmed if I all of a sudden have a bunch of different strategies being thrown at me, so I want to keep this simple.
Allow yourself to feel proud when you attain small victories, like remembering to wear matching shoes or hey, remembering to wear shoes at all. (Yes, I admit, our first pediatrician visit after my son was born, I was so proud that I had remembered to grab a jacket. Then my husband, very sweetly, asked me if I wanted to wear any shoes. I was just in socks and ready to walk out of the door. True story). You deserve to be applauded every day for all of the incredible things that you do, and you should absolutely applaud yourself!
There you go, three quick, not overly-complicated or drawn-out, ways that you can start to practice self-love right away! It takes practice, but with repetition and consistency, you can start to re-frame how you feel about yourself. We can do it, moms!
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