I didn’t grow up thinking I’d yell at my kids.
I read the parenting books. I followed the gentle parenting pages.
I knew what I was supposed to do.
But then life happened.
And motherhood hit harder than I ever imagined.
One morning, I screamed so loud at my toddler that the baby started crying in the next room.
I slammed a cabinet door and immediately burst into tears.
My daughter stood frozen, unsure whether to comfort me or run.
I still remember her little voice:
“Mommy... are you mad at me?”
That moment shattered me.
No one tells you that motherhood can feel this rageful—
when you’re overstimulated, sleep-deprived, and drowning in demands.
No one tells you how terrifying it is to see yourself lose control and not recognize the person your kids see.
This post isn’t about judgment.
It’s about truth, healing, and finally finding a way out.
You don’t yell because you’re a bad mom.
You yell because your nervous system is overloaded and dysregulated.
Yelling isn’t weakness.
It’s a survival response—your body’s last-ditch effort to cope when you feel emotionally and physically unsafe.
And here’s what I had to learn:
You can’t “think” your way out of that.
You can’t just “take a breath” when your body is in meltdown mode.
You have to train your mind and body to respond differently. And that starts before the chaos.
I tried everything:
I didn’t need another tip.
I needed a way to change the pattern at its root.
That’s when I discovered something different.
Something that finally worked—not just in theory, but in real life.
Yelling doesn’t come out of nowhere.
It builds—shoulder tension, jaw clenching, shallow breathing, and that one last thing that tips you over the edge.
When I learned to recognize those early signs in my body,
I could pause and respond instead of explode.
It wasn’t willpower.
It was emotional retraining—and it changed everything.
This is when I started using Mindpower Sessions® inside the MamaZen app.
These weren’t just meditations.
They were rooted in Cognitive Hypnotherapy—a method that helps rewire emotional triggers, release stored stress, and restore calm from within.
Some sessions helped me release the emotional buildup.
Others helped me rehearse the mom I wanted to become: calm, compassionate, confident.
I started to feel safe in my body again—and it showed in how I parented.
If Calm is for meditation, and Headspace is for stress, MamaZen is for moms in breakdown.
I still lose it sometimes. But I don’t spiral anymore.
Now I say:
“I’m sorry I yelled. That wasn’t how I wanted to speak to you. Can we try again?”
That kind of honest, shame-free repair has built deeper trust than any version of perfection ever could.
This wasn’t just a quick fix. It was the beginning of a transformation—one that shifted everything about how I showed up as a mother. It started with the MamaZen app—and the daily Mindpower Sessions® that helped me release the guilt, calm my nervous system, and finally parent with intention. That journey inspired me to write the book I couldn’t find when I needed it most: The MamaZen Parenting Method: 7 Steps to Stop Yelling, Calm Your Stress, and Raise Confident Kids. The app gave me the tools. The book brings the method to life.
Explore the Book – The MamaZen Method
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Yes.
But not with more guilt.
Not with just one more deep breath.
And not by “trying harder.”
You stop yelling when you learn to:
And that’s exactly what the MamaZen app and book were built to help you do.
If you’ve yelled more than you’d like to admit...
If you cry after bedtime out of shame...
If your kids are starting to walk on eggshells around your moods...
You’re not broken.
You’re just carrying too much.
Let’s take some of that weight off your shoulders—together.
Whether it’s a 10-minute Mindpower Session® or the first chapter of The MamaZen Method, the shift starts when you decide you’re done surviving motherhood—and ready to feel better.
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Irin Rubin is a motherhood expert and the co-founder of the app MamaZen. Her passion is helping parents and their kids to live a happy and mindful life.
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MamaZen is a mental wellness app for moms that combines mindfulness, CBT, and hypnotherapy to help you stay calm, confident, and emotionally grounded. One short session can shift your entire day.
A MamaZen membership offers parents a comprehensive suite of resources designed to enhance emotional well-being and foster mindful parenting. For those who have read countless books on parenting and still feel stuck, these features bring transformation, not just theory. Key features include:
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These features collectively provide a holistic approach to parenting, equipping parents with practical tools to enhance their mental well-being and foster a positive family environment.
Yes. Our sessions support moms dealing with anxiety, overwhelm, and the emotional pressure of motherhood. You’ll feel calmer, more supported, and more like yourself again.
Yes! Zenzy® Kids Sessions inside MamaZen help your child sleep better, feel more confident, and manage big emotions—free with your membership.
Yes. MamaZen is designed specifically for moms and uses proven mind-body techniques to help you regulate emotions fast. It’s more than meditation, it’s like a reset button for your mindset.
Most moms feel a noticeable shift in just one session. With regular use, you’ll experience less yelling, more patience, better sleep, and a deeper connection with your children—and yourself.
Yes! Zenzy® Kids Sessions inside MamaZen help your child sleep better, feel more confident, and manage big emotions—free with your membership.
The MamaZen Parenting Method is our bestselling book that guides moms through a 7-step journey to break generational cycles, stop yelling, and parent with calm, intention, and self-compassion. It shares real stories, powerful mindset shifts, and practical tools to help you feel emotionally strong and grounded.
The app brings those tools to life—offering instant support through Mindpower Sessions®, breathing tools, and AI coaching when you need help in the moment.
Most moms feel a noticeable shift in just one session. With regular use, you’ll experience less yelling, more patience, better sleep, and a deeper connection with your children—and yourself.
Yes! Zenzy® Kids Sessions inside MamaZen help your child sleep better, feel more confident, and manage big emotions—free with your membership.
Yes. You can start a free trial and experience the emotional reset for yourself before subscribing.
Most moms feel a noticeable shift in just one session. With regular use, you’ll experience less yelling, more patience, better sleep, and a deeper connection with your children—and yourself.
Yes! Zenzy® Kids Sessions inside MamaZen help your child sleep better, feel more confident, and manage big emotions—free with your membership.
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